Are you providing the right building blocks?

Every child is unique and so is the behavior  displayed by every child, based on the situation.

Every behavior, which a child displays moment by moment, is a result of the tiny brain processing a decision and behaving a certain way. Based on our percussive vibrations and repeated reactions, whether we make him/her right or wrong, the child realizes, what is acceptable and what is not acceptable and slowly the behavior becomes a habit and probably goes on to form the nature and personality of the child.

For instance, if a child has fallen down and hurt himself very badly, and the adult who is accompanying the child, yells at him for not being careful. This can and might happen over and over again during the growing up years of the child. When the child becomes old enough to understand, he makes a decision in his mind, it is bad to fall down or fail in any process.

In another instance, a child spills a glass of milk and is berated, shouted upon for not taking care and creating a mess, she decides involuntarily, if I make a mistake, I will be scolded. As she grows, she starts to feel bad and guilty about making mistakes.

Or maybe, the child is laughed at, for a mistake he has made innocently, and the incident is repeatedly told to every member of the house ( it might seem like a harmless joke to the adult members), but the child might develop a fear for a lifetime. He might decide, that if I make a mistake, people will laugh at me.

There could be many such instances, which form or shape the way a child behaves, and builds up his/her nature, and we the people at home are  the ones, who provide the building blocks to them.

So, next time you encounter a mistake of your child, be a responsible adult and choose the building block you wish to provide them.

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World TV Day or No TV Day ?

via Daily Prompt: Gremlins

A couple of days back, I happened to get an email from one of the online furniture store. It read ‘today is world TV day’, and yes, they were trying to catch my attention to their new arrivals on unique and stylish TV cabinets/units. But what caught my attention was ‘the world TV day’.

Apparently, Nov 21 is the ‘world TV day’, commemorating the date on which the first World Television Forum was held in 1996. Probably, it made sense then, with the television not being that popular. But now, seriously do we need single day to mark the presence of TV?

At my home, with two television sets, it”s almost a 24*7*365 day affair. Being a joint family, one TV dedicated to the grandma and grandpa of the house.  The journey of the grandparents TV, is like a relay race which goes on and on with never ending soap operas, loud music, sobs, melodrama, phew, I am at my wits end at times with non stop nonsense day in and day out. When some friendly neighborhood gremlins come to my rescue, with a dish antenna  or a cable problem, the granny is like a fish out of water, unable to come to terms with missing her daily dose of soaps. And the remote of the other TV is at the kids mercy, if the kids and their program permits, we may be lucky enough to ‘catch a watch’ of “our” program.

Thankfully, with my kiddos, I have tried to limit them to the weekends “limited” TV watching (contributing to energy saving and reducing noise pollution!!) which ranges from cartoons to Barbies to Masterchef and Friends and the like.

With the TV entering homes with a big bang, intruding into our private space, I wonder, if it makes more sense to observe a ‘NO TV DAY’, rather than a world TV day.

Would love to know what role does the idiot box play in your homes. Do write in !!

Nest your thoughts

via Daily Prompt: Nest

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It’s human tendency to look smart, by giving a witty reply, by being the first one to reply to a question posed to a huge audience, by posting a smart comment on a message. We all just want to talk, without even listening to the whole conversation, thus showing our knowledge about the topic. All of this makes us feel smart, important and probably gives us a chance to gain acceptance in our peer group or society.

I’m sure, all of us have been through these situations in the day to day life experiences. The urge to outsmart others, often lands us in embarrassing situations, or putting our foot in our own mouth.

We could overcome this, by becoming aware of this. As information in the form of spoken words, thoughts enter our mind, we try and nest the thoughts. We allow the information, thoughts to rest within, seep in and sit a while in our system. We think and ponder about it and then act on it, unless, it’s a quiz question on the buzzer round :).

I like to visually think of myself as a tree. Arms stretched out up in the air, receiving and accepting life’s experiences. Assimilating and physically experiencing it and letting go of all that is not required, into the earth through the strong roots growing from my feet !!

I have observed, when I practice this, I often avoid confrontation with family, domestic helps, at work…It gives me time to chew the cud and take the essence of the point. And when I do think about it for some time, often things get clear and sorted out on their own without having to show an extreme reaction, anger, irritation. And, things which do not actually matter, often dies down, on its own. Yes, there are things which happen, where I am still a sapling and I do sway with the goings on and react, but I am aware and do display “work in progress” in that zone.

It’s a long drawn process, which takes time, but do try it out and let me know if it works!!

Seven Days B & W Photos Challenge- Day 6

I was challenged by Beauty lies within yourself for a challenge of a ” Seven Days black and white photos of your life”. Thank you Tanvir for the nomination. Here is the picture for day 2 of the challenge.

No people.

No explanation

Just nominate new people every day

 

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Today I nominate Shaloo from shaloowalia.com for this picture challenge.

Are we killing oxygen?

via Daily Prompt: Atmospheric

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We better wake up to the atmospheric pollution we are causing. This is the state of a few  trees on a State Highway. I dread to imagine, what if most of the trees accept this attire down the line…Where and how would we live?? Delhi is one prime example of  chaos and destruction caused by our ascend towards development. What are we leaving behind for our future generations. How can we kill trees, who are the main source of our life? How can we harm our very own life service provider? We need to wake up, before the alarm rings…

Seven Days B & W Photos Challenge- Day 5

I was challenged by Beauty lies within yourself for a challenge of a ” Seven Days black and white photos of your life”. Thank you Tanvir for the nomination. Here is the picture for day 2 of the challenge.

No people.

No explanation

Just nominate new people every day

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Today, I nominate Kamal from boundlessblessings for the Black and White photo challenge.

Seven Days B & W Photos Challenge- Day 4

 

I was challenged by Beauty lies within yourself for a challenge of a ” Seven Days black and white photos of your life”. Thank you Tanvir for the nomination. Here is the picture for day 2 of the challenge.

No people.

No explanation

Just nominate new people every day

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Today, I nominate Karthik from Team Wellness.

 

Seven Days B & W Photos Challenge- Day 3

I was challenged by Beauty lies within yourself for a challenge of a ” Seven Days black and white photos of your life”. Thank you Tanvir for the nomination. Here is the picture for day 2 of the challenge.

No people.

No explanation

Just nominate new people every day

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I nominate Cherry  from Shewrites170 for the 7 days black and white photo challenge.

 

‘Mommy Honk’

via Daily Prompt: Honk

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A mothers love is unprecedented. We’ve all heard about the immense love she provides, and the care she takes of her kids and the sacrifices she makes. Whenever, we hear of a woman/mom who has achieved great heights, taking care of dual responsibilities of work and home or that of a multitasker, our hearts swell with pride, for what a woman can achieve.

But, dealing with kids is a different ball game, altogether, where the ‘mama honk‘ starts to blow. (By mama honk, I don’t mean yelling/shouting, but repeating over and over again) It starts right from the time kids need to wake up : It goes, wake up, brush, bathe, drink milk, have breakfast, put on your shoes, Oh, you forgot your apples, hey run you are late…and mind you, mom has to re-honk multiple times, before the task is accomplished 🙂 and phew, hectic mornings !! Once, the child is packed off to school, it’s the turn of the domestic help and ‘Hubby dear’ 🙂

On the drive to work, the task of honking is delegated to the car. At work, it’s the working lady honk, and back home it’s the kids turn again for the evening dose – homework, study, pack your bags, keep the uniforms ready, go to bed……

On holidays, the mama honk works over time as kids are at home and all tasks to be done by kids need to be repeated at least a few times, if not more….Not a wonder then, that moms get to wear the crown of of a multitasker.

But, on a serious note, behind all this, is the love, care and commitment of ‘dear mom’, without whom, our day to day life will come to a stand still. She is the pillar of strength of any family.

We are all used to tolerating honking on the roads. We can definitely, show love, care and concern for our ‘mommy honk’, which is harmless and keeps nudging and pushing us ahead on the road of life !!