What is your pain measurement?

via Daily Prompt: Varnish

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Sugar coat the harsh words,

Cover all the aches and pains hiding in the dark dungeon of your heart with a coat of varnish,

Plaster the anger and jealousy and put up your best self forward,

Hide all negative and suppressed  emotions, unexpressed  and unspoken words in the underground prison of your mind, project a smiling face,

And present the perfect, unblemished facade to mask the internal anguish !!

How many of us are guilty of presenting ourselves, thus, with somebody or the other, due to some compulsion?

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The uninvited visitor..

via Daily Prompt: Gorge

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Deep within the gorges of the sub conscious mind, reside the most dormant thoughts,fears and untapped power.

Monstrous thoughts and fears which have buried themselves in the darkest nook of the mind and are covered with layers and layers of  critical thoughts which we use in our day to day life. Such dormant thoughts and fears may be  memories related to childhood incidents, past life memories or incidents which occur, events we read about, which create an impact deep within, but are temporarily forgotten. Such memories are awakened by a trigger of certain events happening  later in life.

One such trigger which happened in my life was inside a cave temple, which marked the entry of the claustrophobia in my life (fear of closed spaces). Though I don’ recollect the original incident which caused it to lay dormant within, the triggered phobia seems to play the fiddle regularly in my life. Though I try to fight it, it sort of compels me to give in to it, each time it pays me a visit. I end up getting acquainted with a visitor, totally unwelcome and uninvited 😦

Do you have any such uninvited visitors visiting you? And how did you deal with it? Do share your experiences..

 

Daily Prompt: Relocate

via Daily Prompt: Relocate

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From the day I was born and joined my large family of people on this planet, I have grown to be, who I am today. To reach this stage in life, I have had to relocate umpteen times, physically, emotionally, maturity wise, experience wise and otherwise.

From childhood reveries, I had to relocate my base to being a studious student, I quite didn’t fit into it so easily, all the same, that was the only choice available.

Growing up from being a student to a teenager was a different ballgame. Had envisioned the world from the protected environs of home. Never imagined, anything bad or detrimental to people or the world. But slowly things changed..broadening the spheres of imaginations by the happenings and events around the world, got to learn that all is not hunky dory.

Physically and emotionally relocated after marriage, being severed from my home for so many years, was not easy. And I actually did learn that marriage is an institution, which requires me to emotionally relocate my priorities from time to time.

Motherhood, was yet another such instance. The huge responsibility landing on my shoulders, was definitely a stepping stone to my growth. I relocated and relived my life again, along with my children and still continue doing so everyday. I do have my share of disagreements with my kiddos, but I do try to pack my emotional baggage at the end of day, dump it in a trash can and start afresh the next morning, not as effortless as it sounds, but yes, being aware and cleaning up gives a lot of peace. This makes a tiny shift in me each day and I am actually am relocating inch by inch to meet a new “ME” every  day, and am still growing !!

Twinkle Twinkle Little Star

via Daily Prompt: Sparkle

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Twinkling stars, Oh ! bright and beautiful ones ,

You stay up in the sky, I cannot have any one,

Rich or poor, you are there for everyone,

You differentiate between none.

 

The entire world looks up to you,

To soak in your calm and peaceful vibes,

Soft and mellow, you look so lovable,

You are so adorable, I wish you were pluckable.

 

Hugs and cuddles I wish to send you,

Let me know how do I  commune with you,

Would you like to share the secret behind your beautiful smile,

I will come and converse with you for a while.

 

The shimmering and glowing beautiful stars,

Come and share your tales with us, we always love you from afar,

Tiny, twinkling innumerable stars,

Big inspiration to many, you are.

 

You shimmer and sparkle from far away,

You illuminate  the night sky in your own way,

A home far up in the vast heavenly sky,

You dance all night, till the break of day.

Good bye little stars,

Till we meet, I will greet you, from where you are !!

 

 

Dear God

via Daily Prompt: Snippet

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Dear God,

I face an obstacle in life,

I pray unto you to resolve it,

I wish to have faith and

I wish to surrender.

But,

I have a problem.

I have a monkey mind,

Which makes my thoughts jump from one tree to another,

From a higher branch to a lower one,

I wish to tame it,

But,

I have a problem.

I get caught in the whirlwind of thoughts,

I get caught in the willy-nilly of life,

I get stressed by the umpteen chores,

I try to meditate to catch them all,

But,

I have a problem.

I fail to silence them all,

I take a few steps forward and fall,

I determine to do it once more, I make a resolve,

I will pray unto you, for you are above all.

Please show me my path,

Don’t let it be a one-way street,

Please share a glimpse or a snippet from my life with me,

Give me an indication,

Show me that my obstacles and problems

Are ‘Work In Progress’ at your workshop,

And please tell me, that you are always with me !!

Are you providing the right building blocks?

Every child is unique and so is the behavior  displayed by every child, based on the situation.

Every behavior, which a child displays moment by moment, is a result of the tiny brain processing a decision and behaving a certain way. Based on our percussive vibrations and repeated reactions, whether we make him/her right or wrong, the child realizes, what is acceptable and what is not acceptable and slowly the behavior becomes a habit and probably goes on to form the nature and personality of the child.

For instance, if a child has fallen down and hurt himself very badly, and the adult who is accompanying the child, yells at him for not being careful. This can and might happen over and over again during the growing up years of the child. When the child becomes old enough to understand, he makes a decision in his mind, it is bad to fall down or fail in any process.

In another instance, a child spills a glass of milk and is berated, shouted upon for not taking care and creating a mess, she decides involuntarily, if I make a mistake, I will be scolded. As she grows, she starts to feel bad and guilty about making mistakes.

Or maybe, the child is laughed at, for a mistake he has made innocently, and the incident is repeatedly told to every member of the house ( it might seem like a harmless joke to the adult members), but the child might develop a fear for a lifetime. He might decide, that if I make a mistake, people will laugh at me.

There could be many such instances, which form or shape the way a child behaves, and builds up his/her nature, and we the people at home are  the ones, who provide the building blocks to them.

So, next time you encounter a mistake of your child, be a responsible adult and choose the building block you wish to provide them.

World TV Day or No TV Day ?

via Daily Prompt: Gremlins

A couple of days back, I happened to get an email from one of the online furniture store. It read ‘today is world TV day’, and yes, they were trying to catch my attention to their new arrivals on unique and stylish TV cabinets/units. But what caught my attention was ‘the world TV day’.

Apparently, Nov 21 is the ‘world TV day’, commemorating the date on which the first World Television Forum was held in 1996. Probably, it made sense then, with the television not being that popular. But now, seriously do we need single day to mark the presence of TV?

At my home, with two television sets, it”s almost a 24*7*365 day affair. Being a joint family, one TV dedicated to the grandma and grandpa of the house.  The journey of the grandparents TV, is like a relay race which goes on and on with never ending soap operas, loud music, sobs, melodrama, phew, I am at my wits end at times with non stop nonsense day in and day out. When some friendly neighborhood gremlins come to my rescue, with a dish antenna  or a cable problem, the granny is like a fish out of water, unable to come to terms with missing her daily dose of soaps. And the remote of the other TV is at the kids mercy, if the kids and their program permits, we may be lucky enough to ‘catch a watch’ of “our” program.

Thankfully, with my kiddos, I have tried to limit them to the weekends “limited” TV watching (contributing to energy saving and reducing noise pollution!!) which ranges from cartoons to Barbies to Masterchef and Friends and the like.

With the TV entering homes with a big bang, intruding into our private space, I wonder, if it makes more sense to observe a ‘NO TV DAY’, rather than a world TV day.

Would love to know what role does the idiot box play in your homes. Do write in !!

Nest your thoughts

via Daily Prompt: Nest

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It’s human tendency to look smart, by giving a witty reply, by being the first one to reply to a question posed to a huge audience, by posting a smart comment on a message. We all just want to talk, without even listening to the whole conversation, thus showing our knowledge about the topic. All of this makes us feel smart, important and probably gives us a chance to gain acceptance in our peer group or society.

I’m sure, all of us have been through these situations in the day to day life experiences. The urge to outsmart others, often lands us in embarrassing situations, or putting our foot in our own mouth.

We could overcome this, by becoming aware of this. As information in the form of spoken words, thoughts enter our mind, we try and nest the thoughts. We allow the information, thoughts to rest within, seep in and sit a while in our system. We think and ponder about it and then act on it, unless, it’s a quiz question on the buzzer round :).

I like to visually think of myself as a tree. Arms stretched out up in the air, receiving and accepting life’s experiences. Assimilating and physically experiencing it and letting go of all that is not required, into the earth through the strong roots growing from my feet !!

I have observed, when I practice this, I often avoid confrontation with family, domestic helps, at work…It gives me time to chew the cud and take the essence of the point. And when I do think about it for some time, often things get clear and sorted out on their own without having to show an extreme reaction, anger, irritation. And, things which do not actually matter, often dies down, on its own. Yes, there are things which happen, where I am still a sapling and I do sway with the goings on and react, but I am aware and do display “work in progress” in that zone.

It’s a long drawn process, which takes time, but do try it out and let me know if it works!!

Are we killing oxygen?

via Daily Prompt: Atmospheric

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We better wake up to the atmospheric pollution we are causing. This is the state of a few  trees on a State Highway. I dread to imagine, what if most of the trees accept this attire down the line…Where and how would we live?? Delhi is one prime example of  chaos and destruction caused by our ascend towards development. What are we leaving behind for our future generations. How can we kill trees, who are the main source of our life? How can we harm our very own life service provider? We need to wake up, before the alarm rings…

‘Mommy Honk’

via Daily Prompt: Honk

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A mothers love is unprecedented. We’ve all heard about the immense love she provides, and the care she takes of her kids and the sacrifices she makes. Whenever, we hear of a woman/mom who has achieved great heights, taking care of dual responsibilities of work and home or that of a multitasker, our hearts swell with pride, for what a woman can achieve.

But, dealing with kids is a different ball game, altogether, where the ‘mama honk‘ starts to blow. (By mama honk, I don’t mean yelling/shouting, but repeating over and over again) It starts right from the time kids need to wake up : It goes, wake up, brush, bathe, drink milk, have breakfast, put on your shoes, Oh, you forgot your apples, hey run you are late…and mind you, mom has to re-honk multiple times, before the task is accomplished 🙂 and phew, hectic mornings !! Once, the child is packed off to school, it’s the turn of the domestic help and ‘Hubby dear’ 🙂

On the drive to work, the task of honking is delegated to the car. At work, it’s the working lady honk, and back home it’s the kids turn again for the evening dose – homework, study, pack your bags, keep the uniforms ready, go to bed……

On holidays, the mama honk works over time as kids are at home and all tasks to be done by kids need to be repeated at least a few times, if not more….Not a wonder then, that moms get to wear the crown of of a multitasker.

But, on a serious note, behind all this, is the love, care and commitment of ‘dear mom’, without whom, our day to day life will come to a stand still. She is the pillar of strength of any family.

We are all used to tolerating honking on the roads. We can definitely, show love, care and concern for our ‘mommy honk’, which is harmless and keeps nudging and pushing us ahead on the road of life !!