Are you providing the right building blocks?

Every child is unique and so is the behavior  displayed by every child, based on the situation.

Every behavior, which a child displays moment by moment, is a result of the tiny brain processing a decision and behaving a certain way. Based on our percussive vibrations and repeated reactions, whether we make him/her right or wrong, the child realizes, what is acceptable and what is not acceptable and slowly the behavior becomes a habit and probably goes on to form the nature and personality of the child.

For instance, if a child has fallen down and hurt himself very badly, and the adult who is accompanying the child, yells at him for not being careful. This can and might happen over and over again during the growing up years of the child. When the child becomes old enough to understand, he makes a decision in his mind, it is bad to fall down or fail in any process.

In another instance, a child spills a glass of milk and is berated, shouted upon for not taking care and creating a mess, she decides involuntarily, if I make a mistake, I will be scolded. As she grows, she starts to feel bad and guilty about making mistakes.

Or maybe, the child is laughed at, for a mistake he has made innocently, and the incident is repeatedly told to every member of the house ( it might seem like a harmless joke to the adult members), but the child might develop a fear for a lifetime. He might decide, that if I make a mistake, people will laugh at me.

There could be many such instances, which form or shape the way a child behaves, and builds up his/her nature, and we the people at home are  the ones, who provide the building blocks to them.

So, next time you encounter a mistake of your child, be a responsible adult and choose the building block you wish to provide them.

10 thoughts on “Are you providing the right building blocks?

    1. I’ve seen this happen with friends,relatives and self. I really feel for the little kids who have innocently done what they have done and are at the receiving end. I bet, if they are treated with patience and love, we will see love and a transformed tomorrow..
      Thanks a lot pragalbha 😇

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  1. Very well expressed, Deepika. I totally and complete second it. Although as children we took to doing exactly that, yet it is when we catch our own children falling into wrong conclusion rather conclusions that they have made after being in a situation, that we learn to make the right choices. We too, like them, learn from experience.
    To quote an incident. A friend’s son was participating in a skit at school. He was playing one of the main roles in the play. When on a particular day he did not say his lines well, the teacher in charge scolded, criticized him in front of all of his friends. The child went into a shell and began to believe that he was capable of nothing. After timely interference from parents and teachers, the child has now bounced back but has made it clear that skit, dramas and plays are not for him.
    It is sad that a talent was squashed.

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    1. Oh my, that’s really sad. A teacher can actually make or break a child’s confidence. A casual remark by an adult can have an adverse effect on the child’s personality. I seriously feel, that psychology should be part of the curriculum in schools.

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