Changing scales

via Daily Prompt: Deny

To accept, is to be responsible, to deny, is to blame.

We oscillate like a pendulum, between the two, with varying degrees of acceptance or denial.

It is human tendency, to deny responsibility in a given situation, to avoid insult, fear of being berated, punishment or the like. We often see this attribute in children, where they pass the buck – she did this, it’s his fault and so on..As we grow, we realize the futility of the blame game and start to behave maturely and responsibly.

To accept a given problematic situation, to assess it, to let it sink in and act responsibly and move ahead from that point, requires awareness and practice. In my opinion, we as adults continuously move up from a scale of 1 to 10 as we grow up and outgrow the habit and need to deny.

Do share your thoughts on where you stand on this scaleΒ  πŸ™‚


13 thoughts on “Changing scales

  1. The children who are not counselled for always keeping in denial mode (blaming others) possibly grow in the adults who cannot accept their own wrongdoings. It’s true that awareness and practice is a necessity but not only as one grows into an adult but right from the tender age.
    Measuring on the scale is difficult for me πŸ˜›

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    1. I agree. It also depends on how and what the parents wish to inculcate in the kids who are growing up. Also, children do observe and learn. So if parents are aware and practicing the same, it will percolate in them too.


  2. It is us parents who are to blame when a child automatically puts the blame on another person, a situation or another factor. We can correct them and ask them to be able to accept that the fault lies in us. But before we say that, we must practice it ourselves. There were times when I too have automatically fallen into this trap, but once I saw it in my son, I now rectify myself so that he can learn from what he sees too. Thank you for reminding, Deepika.

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