It’s time to wake up, come on, hurry up, get out of bed and get going with your morning activities, and make it fast, else you’ll end up missing your school bus…
So, starts the dialogue of the day in most houses between parents and children. C’mon finish your bath quickly in five mins, come have your breakfast, make it fast..
“But mama, I’m so sleepy, can I sleep for a while?” No way, you should go to bed early at night so that you are rested completely. You chose to play with your sister and while away your time.You can’t afford to sleep now. C’mon, hurry up and eat your food.. and so on…
A relaxed, stress free child is what we are all blessed with. It is we, the parents, who burden them with unnecessary stress, teach them to hurry up, teach them to multitask, teach them excessive anger, push them to achieve more, to the extent that it quickens their heart beat….
It is then we realize, Oh Gosh ! My child is stressed out.I need to teach him to relax and be stress free. But then, it’s too late. Stress is wired into their being and system.
The irony of the whole situation being, we teach the relaxed child to become stressed and then expect a bottled up child to relax and loosen up.
Couldn’t we just allow them to be just children, enjoy nature, allow them to play with their siblings, be gentle with them. In most cases,it’s the parents stress that’s being transferred on to the child. Isn’t it sad and true ?
This is what we get…
This is what we make them to be..
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A common relatable story in most households I guess 😔
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Sadly, yes 😟
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whatever it be….but the morning sleep is invaluable….
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True 🙂
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lovely
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Thank you Ranjitha 😃
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Just let them Be 🙂 …is only a wish …sadly a secret wish sometimes 🙂
Sometimes when my son says ‘Mom, I am bored’ …I say …How lucky are you ?! Go enjoy the time you have, to get bored.
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He he , I loved the enjoy the time you have, go get bored 👍
Yeah, sometimes,being fully aware, we get them under the grind..Like you rightly said, it remains a secret wish 😮
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🙂
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Thank you, Deepika! This is one thought that crosses my mind every night when I get to bed and think about the day. I make a promise that I will be more relaxed and will NOT tell my children to be ‘do fast’ and ‘be quick’ all the time, but then the next morning I see myself doing exactly what I thought that I must not.
Just last week I happened to come across a talk by actor, R.Madhavan, who questioned his audience as to when was the last time you took a proper bath or ate your meals without having to think about what you have to do next? Is it not true? We are always thinking what we got to do next rather than enjoying the present moment. Unfortunately, we are conditioning to make our children think the same.
Thank you, once again, Deepika, need to bear this in mind and hope my mind does not revert to its bad ways ones my children are up for the day!
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Yes pranitha, I go through the same. But the positive lining is the fact that it’s work in progress 😃
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